I adopted a motto a while back, and the motto is this: ‘Drink til….” The blank can be filled in with basically anything. Examples for me have been: drink til he’s cute, drink til he’s not annoying, drink til his jokes are funny. I was using this motto and trying to ‘drink til’ the boring party I was at became fun. I was at the party one night with some friends, waiting for them to feel ready to leave since we all drove together, and so far the vodka wasn’t really helping. There was a poker game that a few guys were playing and since I grew up playing poker with my brothers I figured why not join in. I played a few hands and did fairly well except there was one guy who kept beating us all. Turns out he happened to be a professional poker player which I thought was entirely unfair and I told him as much. He seemed amused by me and came up to me after the game. He introduced himself properly and told me his name was James and he apologized for beating me at Poker. He said he’d like to make it up to me and use the money he’d won to take me out to dinner the following evening. James seemed very confident, and he had pretty blue eyes with a decent looking face. He walked with sort of an odd waddle and needed to lose about 20 pounds, but he did seem like a nice guy so I agreed to dinner.
We began seeing each other fairly often after that, and he was a total gentleman, taking me out on great dates. He also wasn’t being too pushy about getting down my pants right away which I appreciated. I wasn’t falling for him by any means, I was more indifferent than anything. I think I only kept going out with him because it was so convenient and nothing was apparently wrong or negative. That is until the night I decided that I’d made him wait long enough for sex. I figured he’d been a total gentleman, and it was time to either sleep with him or break it off. I wasn’t quite ready for the latter yet, plus it had been quite a while since I’d had sex. I also figured since he seemed so into me that he’d definitely be a pleaser in bed as well. Oh how very wrong I was. That night after we got back to his place he poured some wine and we talked a bit before he started kissing me on his couch. Then he asked if I wanted to move this to the bedroom, so I nodded and we went to his bed. I waited for the foreplay to begin but the next thing I knew he was putting on a condom and we were having sex. What went through my mind was, is this guy for real? Has he been with a girl before? You don’t just jump that quickly to the sex and if you do it better be damn good. Just when I was about finished thinking these irritating thoughts, he was about finished having sex. He seemed satisfied and content while I was completely unsatisfied and pissed off. The worst part is as much as I wanted to leave and go home right then, I’d been drinking so I was forced to spend the night. He tried to cuddle with me while I rolled away from him as far as possible and tried to sleep. He had an early flight to catch the next morning, and I awoke with him trying to rub up against my leg like a dog. I ignored these sad attempts at sex and pretended I was still asleep. I even threw in a couple of light snores to make it seem extra believable. When I realized he clearly wasn’t giving up I asked him what time it was and pointed out that he’d better get in the shower before he missed his flight. He agreed, thank God, and walked down the hall to the bathroom. I heard the shower running for a while and figured I’d better grab my clothes and get dressed so he didn’t try anything else when he came out. I reached over the end of the bed and was looking for my shirt when I glanced to my left and noticed he had the bathroom door about halfway open. Then I noticed something else, his feet. Oh….my….God. He wasn’t showering this whole time, he was taking a shit! And with the door halfway open, did this man have any shame?! I threw on my clothes as fast as possible and was about to open the door to leave when he called my name. He was standing behind me with a towel on looking confused. I told him I’d just remembered I was meeting a friend for breakfast and I was late, but to have a great trip. He told me he’d talk to me when he got back, and I thought to myself, actually you won’t, but you’ll find that out soon enough. He tried to kiss me goodbye and I awkwardly turned my head and yelled bye while running out the door. He tried calling a few times when he got back from his trip and eventually gave up after I didn’t respond. That was the end of dating for mere convenience for me, and as for waiting around until the problems presented themselves, I had decided it was time to either shit or get off the pot…pun intended.
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Thursday, July 1, 2010
The Sketchy Guy
At one of the restaurants I worked at, I became pretty close with one of my fellow waitresses. Her name was Sally but she preferred to be called Sal. Sal was an aspiring stand up comic and we used to spend more of our work shifts laughing hysterically then tending to customers. At one point I joined her sketch comedy troupe. One of her roommates and best friends was also in the troupe. His name was Garlic. At first I thought this was just a silly stage name he used for the sake of comedy, but then I found out it was his actual given name. Apparently his parents were blues singers who were trying to be hip and different or something when they chose that name. My theory is that he was probably an accident and naming him Garlic was their way of getting back at him. Aside from the ridiculous name, Garlic had a lot going for him. He was a very attractive man with an amazing sense of humor, so of course I developed a huge crush on him. I found out through Sal he had a crush on me as well. It felt a little like junior high for the first couple of weeks since we mostly communicated our feelings about each other through Sal. He was a little shy with girls. He finally got the up the nerve to ask me out and we went out for dinner and drinks one night after a show. Then after a couple more dates I ended up spending the night and turns out Garlic wasn’t so shy in bedroom which was fantastic news. Pretty soon I was spending the night at he and Sal’s apartment more than I stayed at my own. Usually in the mornings Sal would make me coffee and we’d have our girl time. It was very convenient and fun. Until the night that doomed my relationship with Garlic.
We had a sketch during one of the shows that was about baby angels, and it required most of the cast to dress up in diapers. After that show, I went home with Garlic and Sal per the usual. When we were alone in his bedroom I heard a strange sound I couldn’t place at first. Kind of a rustling noise. I realized it was coming from Garlic’s pants. I asked if he was still wearing the diaper under his pants thinking that he must have been in a huge hurry to not have taken off the costume. He said that he did still have it on and had a strange look on his face. I got the feeling there was something he wasn’t sharing so with enough pushing he finally agreed to tell me what it was. He apparently had a sexual fetish that involved being diapered. Wow. I had always told him that if he had anything he wanted to try sexually not to be afraid to tell me , that I was really open and game for pretty much anything. Oh how I was regretting those words. I probably should have left then, but instead I tried to pretend like that wasn’t an insanely strange request. I actually began to go through with this diapering act. Baby powder and all, I started diapering Garlic. He seemed to be really enjoying it and getting turned on and then I all of a sudden didn’t feel so well. Or at least that’s what I said to stop the diapering. I went and sat in the restroom for long enough to make it seem like I might be sick. I came out and he looked concerned which made me feel slightly guilty for faking an illness, until I remembered the way his face looked while being diapered. I told him I just wanted to get home and rest in my own bed.
After that night I started to blow him off until I think he got the hint that I was no longer interested. I also eventually quit the comedy troupe which had become fairly awkward. Sal was bummed that it hadn’t worked out between Garlic and I. I never told her the truth of what had happened. I just told her we were really different people. I think the moral is that honesty is the best policy, unless your truth includes things like you get sexually excited while someone is shaking baby powder on your privates and sticking a pamper on your ass. In that case it might be in your best interest to lie.
We had a sketch during one of the shows that was about baby angels, and it required most of the cast to dress up in diapers. After that show, I went home with Garlic and Sal per the usual. When we were alone in his bedroom I heard a strange sound I couldn’t place at first. Kind of a rustling noise. I realized it was coming from Garlic’s pants. I asked if he was still wearing the diaper under his pants thinking that he must have been in a huge hurry to not have taken off the costume. He said that he did still have it on and had a strange look on his face. I got the feeling there was something he wasn’t sharing so with enough pushing he finally agreed to tell me what it was. He apparently had a sexual fetish that involved being diapered. Wow. I had always told him that if he had anything he wanted to try sexually not to be afraid to tell me , that I was really open and game for pretty much anything. Oh how I was regretting those words. I probably should have left then, but instead I tried to pretend like that wasn’t an insanely strange request. I actually began to go through with this diapering act. Baby powder and all, I started diapering Garlic. He seemed to be really enjoying it and getting turned on and then I all of a sudden didn’t feel so well. Or at least that’s what I said to stop the diapering. I went and sat in the restroom for long enough to make it seem like I might be sick. I came out and he looked concerned which made me feel slightly guilty for faking an illness, until I remembered the way his face looked while being diapered. I told him I just wanted to get home and rest in my own bed.
After that night I started to blow him off until I think he got the hint that I was no longer interested. I also eventually quit the comedy troupe which had become fairly awkward. Sal was bummed that it hadn’t worked out between Garlic and I. I never told her the truth of what had happened. I just told her we were really different people. I think the moral is that honesty is the best policy, unless your truth includes things like you get sexually excited while someone is shaking baby powder on your privates and sticking a pamper on your ass. In that case it might be in your best interest to lie.
Sunday, May 23, 2010
The Ziplock Billionaire
I’ve always liked meeting people organically. Knowing right away whether or not there was any spark between you. I was terrified of being set up so I usually never allowed it to happen. Until one day my best friend Gavin told me he had the perfect guy for me. He proceeded to tell me all about his friend Damon, who according to him was incredibly hot. He said Damon was tall and gorgeous with wavy black hair and blue eyes. Apparently Damon also happened to be a billionaire. A hot billionaire did sound pretty tempting. I asked more questions about Damon and learned he was a billionaire because his family had invented Ziploc. I got a little nervous when Gavin kept saying things like Damon is a little bit out there, but he’s a great guy. Or that Damon is definitely a bit eccentric, but I think he just needs the right woman who understands him. I decided what the hell, I’d go out with him once and see how it went.
Damon called and we set up our date for the following Friday evening. I decided that I needed a new outfit, one suitable for a date with a billionaire, so Gavin and I went shopping. I couldn’t really afford the new dress, black patent leather heels, or overpriced clutch purse I bought but I figured it was like an investment. Gavin agreed and we proceeded to discuss all the things we would get to do when I was married to the billionaire.
Friday came around and Damon called to ask if I could meet him around 1:00 pm since he had plans later on. He figured we could meet for lunch. I was very close to saying, "sure thing, we can meet for lunch, and if you could just reimburse me for the outfit I spent way to much on for the evening date we had planned that’d be super." I instead took a deep breath and told him I’d thought we were planning to meet up in the evening, and I was busy until then. He told me he would see if he could rearrange his plans. He called back a few minutes later and said he’d rescheduled and we were on for the evening. We planned to meet at a trendy bar for some cocktails and then play it by ear after that.
When I saw Damon, I was slightly disappointed. Gavin had exaggerated a bit on how drop-dead gorgeous he was, and with my heels on we were about the same height which I don’t usually consider “tall." He was cute enough though and seemed pretty friendly so far. We ordered martinis and got to know each other. It seemed to be going well. After drinks he asked if I wanted to go to his house and hang out. That we’d drive together and he’d bring me back later for my car. I figured it was safe enough to go with him. He was friends with Gavin so he most likely wasn’t a rapist or murderer, plus I was extremely curious to see where he lived.
When we got to his house, after being greeted by his 3 large and very enthusiastic dogs, he gave me a tour of the place. It was obvious to me that he had just recently moved in what with the extremely expensive paintings stacked in a corner together instead of on the wall, and the only furniture appeared to be his large expensive bed and a couch. Also there were a ton of boxes in the living room which were open but full, and the backyard, although it had an amazing view of the city, was in desperate need of a gardener. He showed me the area in the backyard where he had the garden of marijuana plants he apparently was growing. I asked him how many weeks he'd lived here and during the long silent pause which followed my question I’m certain I heard crickets. He then shared that he had lived here for 6 years. I tried to smile and nod as if I thought it was completely normal for a billionaire who could hire any help he needed to live like a completely disorganized slob. He then lit a joint which I could see was obviously something he was passionate about. We talked for a couple hours and then he kissed me which was surprisingly not bad. It was getting pretty late and we’d both been drinking so we started to fall asleep. He suggested I stay and he would drive me back in the morning to get my car. I hesitated but he assured me he would be on his best behavior so I agreed and stayed. Apparently I wasn’t the only one welcome in his bed as he called all 3 of his huge dogs to jump up there and snuggle in with us for the evening. Super comfy for me and just the romantic evening I’d imagined.
In the morning when I woke up to one of the dogs licking my face instead of breakfast in bed I was ready for this date to be over. I told Damon I needed to get going and he drove me back to my car. I had parked it in a parking structure so he stopped at the front of it and let me out, saying he’d call me soon. As I started walking into the lot I realized two things. First thing being that I had no idea where I’d parked my car in this four level lot, and also that the sign said any car parked here for more then 8 hours would have to pay a $40 flat rate fee. Wonderful. How thoughtful of Damon to not drive me in to make sure I got to my car o.k. and also not to think about what it might have cost me to park here overnight.
Over the next couple of days Damon called a few times and left the most perplexing messages. One of them simply said “Hey it’s me, takin the dogs out” and then click. That was the whole message. I didn’t know which was more bizarre, that after one date he thought it was acceptable to say ‘this is me’ or the fact that all he wanted me to know was he was taking the dogs out. When we spoke again he asked if he could take me to a yoga class the next day. I had never been to a yoga class and he seemed really eager for me to go so I agreed. Since I thought he was “taking me” I was a little surprised when he gave me the time to meet him and the address of the studio. He told me to wait in the front for him and said he had a yoga mat I could borrow so I assumed he’d definitely be paying for me to get in as well. Well the class started at 11 and he said to meet him at 10:40. I was there waiting by 10:35. Figured he would be there any second by 10:40. Started getting a little worried by 10:45 and really annoyed by 10:50. And by 10:55 I had been talked into purchasing my very own yoga mat as well as a 2 week unlimited yoga pass to this studio by the people who had been looking at me with pity for the last 20 minutes thinking I’d definitely been stood up. He comes running in at about 10:59 and seemed surprised that I had already paid for myself and bought a mat. He apologized and I mumbled something about it being fine which I was clearly lying about. I tried to find a Zen mood during yoga that made me not want to strangle the billionaire I could no longer afford to date because it was costing me too much. After class he gave me an awkward hug and drove off in his car. No offering to maybe get lunch or even a kiss goodbye. I figured he perhaps wasn’t interested anymore which was fine with me at this point. But sure enough later that afternoon I got another message with the much needed update that he was “takin the dogs out.” I decided that if he made a huge effort to wine and dine me or at least stop appearing crazy and self centered I might give him one more chance.
He called often and usually just wanted me to come hang out at his house or go to yoga and I always made excuses for why I was busy. I figured since we had a mutual friend I didn’t want to be rude and I’d just blow him off slowly. One night we were talking and somehow being set up on dates came up. I was expressing that I wasn’t a fan of it and he told me that normally he would agree but then we would never have met, and how with us it had worked out really well. Was this guy for real? I was beginning to think he was clearly delusional. I didn’t even know how to respond to him so I made up an excuse to get off the phone.
One night he actually suggested we go meet up with his friends at a really expensive fancy restaurant I’d always wanted to try. I agreed to go because I felt like I deserved a nice date for even humoring this strange man. I said I would meet him at his place and we’d drive together. When I got to his house dressed up and ready to be taken out, he answered the door with a robe on and a joint in his hand and asked if I minded just staying in instead, he wasn’t really up for going out tonight. I was so irritated at this point that exactly what I said is a bit of a blur. I believe it was something along the lines of “yes I do mind. I’m going out tonight but you by all means stay here with your garden of weed and your yoga mats. You may also want to consider actually moving into your house one of these days. Oh, and I don’t care if you’re “taking the dogs out”, refrain from calling me to let me know. Actually refrain from calling me period.” I slammed the door on my way out and felt pretty empowered by what had just happened. Then I got home and realized I had dog shit on one of my favorite heels and that feeling went away pretty quickly. I now had a ruined suede shoe to replace. I could not believe how much dating this billionaire had cost me. Needless to say Damon the billionaire and I didn’t speak again, Gavin apologized for setting me up with a crazy, and I refuse to buy Ziploc bags to this day.
Damon called and we set up our date for the following Friday evening. I decided that I needed a new outfit, one suitable for a date with a billionaire, so Gavin and I went shopping. I couldn’t really afford the new dress, black patent leather heels, or overpriced clutch purse I bought but I figured it was like an investment. Gavin agreed and we proceeded to discuss all the things we would get to do when I was married to the billionaire.
Friday came around and Damon called to ask if I could meet him around 1:00 pm since he had plans later on. He figured we could meet for lunch. I was very close to saying, "sure thing, we can meet for lunch, and if you could just reimburse me for the outfit I spent way to much on for the evening date we had planned that’d be super." I instead took a deep breath and told him I’d thought we were planning to meet up in the evening, and I was busy until then. He told me he would see if he could rearrange his plans. He called back a few minutes later and said he’d rescheduled and we were on for the evening. We planned to meet at a trendy bar for some cocktails and then play it by ear after that.
When I saw Damon, I was slightly disappointed. Gavin had exaggerated a bit on how drop-dead gorgeous he was, and with my heels on we were about the same height which I don’t usually consider “tall." He was cute enough though and seemed pretty friendly so far. We ordered martinis and got to know each other. It seemed to be going well. After drinks he asked if I wanted to go to his house and hang out. That we’d drive together and he’d bring me back later for my car. I figured it was safe enough to go with him. He was friends with Gavin so he most likely wasn’t a rapist or murderer, plus I was extremely curious to see where he lived.
When we got to his house, after being greeted by his 3 large and very enthusiastic dogs, he gave me a tour of the place. It was obvious to me that he had just recently moved in what with the extremely expensive paintings stacked in a corner together instead of on the wall, and the only furniture appeared to be his large expensive bed and a couch. Also there were a ton of boxes in the living room which were open but full, and the backyard, although it had an amazing view of the city, was in desperate need of a gardener. He showed me the area in the backyard where he had the garden of marijuana plants he apparently was growing. I asked him how many weeks he'd lived here and during the long silent pause which followed my question I’m certain I heard crickets. He then shared that he had lived here for 6 years. I tried to smile and nod as if I thought it was completely normal for a billionaire who could hire any help he needed to live like a completely disorganized slob. He then lit a joint which I could see was obviously something he was passionate about. We talked for a couple hours and then he kissed me which was surprisingly not bad. It was getting pretty late and we’d both been drinking so we started to fall asleep. He suggested I stay and he would drive me back in the morning to get my car. I hesitated but he assured me he would be on his best behavior so I agreed and stayed. Apparently I wasn’t the only one welcome in his bed as he called all 3 of his huge dogs to jump up there and snuggle in with us for the evening. Super comfy for me and just the romantic evening I’d imagined.
In the morning when I woke up to one of the dogs licking my face instead of breakfast in bed I was ready for this date to be over. I told Damon I needed to get going and he drove me back to my car. I had parked it in a parking structure so he stopped at the front of it and let me out, saying he’d call me soon. As I started walking into the lot I realized two things. First thing being that I had no idea where I’d parked my car in this four level lot, and also that the sign said any car parked here for more then 8 hours would have to pay a $40 flat rate fee. Wonderful. How thoughtful of Damon to not drive me in to make sure I got to my car o.k. and also not to think about what it might have cost me to park here overnight.
Over the next couple of days Damon called a few times and left the most perplexing messages. One of them simply said “Hey it’s me, takin the dogs out” and then click. That was the whole message. I didn’t know which was more bizarre, that after one date he thought it was acceptable to say ‘this is me’ or the fact that all he wanted me to know was he was taking the dogs out. When we spoke again he asked if he could take me to a yoga class the next day. I had never been to a yoga class and he seemed really eager for me to go so I agreed. Since I thought he was “taking me” I was a little surprised when he gave me the time to meet him and the address of the studio. He told me to wait in the front for him and said he had a yoga mat I could borrow so I assumed he’d definitely be paying for me to get in as well. Well the class started at 11 and he said to meet him at 10:40. I was there waiting by 10:35. Figured he would be there any second by 10:40. Started getting a little worried by 10:45 and really annoyed by 10:50. And by 10:55 I had been talked into purchasing my very own yoga mat as well as a 2 week unlimited yoga pass to this studio by the people who had been looking at me with pity for the last 20 minutes thinking I’d definitely been stood up. He comes running in at about 10:59 and seemed surprised that I had already paid for myself and bought a mat. He apologized and I mumbled something about it being fine which I was clearly lying about. I tried to find a Zen mood during yoga that made me not want to strangle the billionaire I could no longer afford to date because it was costing me too much. After class he gave me an awkward hug and drove off in his car. No offering to maybe get lunch or even a kiss goodbye. I figured he perhaps wasn’t interested anymore which was fine with me at this point. But sure enough later that afternoon I got another message with the much needed update that he was “takin the dogs out.” I decided that if he made a huge effort to wine and dine me or at least stop appearing crazy and self centered I might give him one more chance.
He called often and usually just wanted me to come hang out at his house or go to yoga and I always made excuses for why I was busy. I figured since we had a mutual friend I didn’t want to be rude and I’d just blow him off slowly. One night we were talking and somehow being set up on dates came up. I was expressing that I wasn’t a fan of it and he told me that normally he would agree but then we would never have met, and how with us it had worked out really well. Was this guy for real? I was beginning to think he was clearly delusional. I didn’t even know how to respond to him so I made up an excuse to get off the phone.
One night he actually suggested we go meet up with his friends at a really expensive fancy restaurant I’d always wanted to try. I agreed to go because I felt like I deserved a nice date for even humoring this strange man. I said I would meet him at his place and we’d drive together. When I got to his house dressed up and ready to be taken out, he answered the door with a robe on and a joint in his hand and asked if I minded just staying in instead, he wasn’t really up for going out tonight. I was so irritated at this point that exactly what I said is a bit of a blur. I believe it was something along the lines of “yes I do mind. I’m going out tonight but you by all means stay here with your garden of weed and your yoga mats. You may also want to consider actually moving into your house one of these days. Oh, and I don’t care if you’re “taking the dogs out”, refrain from calling me to let me know. Actually refrain from calling me period.” I slammed the door on my way out and felt pretty empowered by what had just happened. Then I got home and realized I had dog shit on one of my favorite heels and that feeling went away pretty quickly. I now had a ruined suede shoe to replace. I could not believe how much dating this billionaire had cost me. Needless to say Damon the billionaire and I didn’t speak again, Gavin apologized for setting me up with a crazy, and I refuse to buy Ziploc bags to this day.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
The Fishy Guy
There are always those random in between guys. One of those types I encountered was named James. I met James one night at a local dive bar. They had karaoke in the bar that night and my friend and I had just finished our rendition of Bon Jovi, Livin on a Prayer when James approached us. He complimented our song which was my first clue as to how drunk he was. Though I could tell he was pretty tipsy, he was also handsome and sexy, so we chatted for a while. We played pool, we discussed our lives a bit. He managed a night club and he was also an actor. The night came to an end and we exchanged phone numbers.
The next day James called and told me that while he remembered absolutely NOTHING from the previous night, he figured I must be a pretty cool girl for being able to deal with his drunken self. Wow. How flattering. We made a date to go out. We met for drinks and hit it off. We continued to go out fairly regularly after that.
One night, we were sitting in his bedroom having a long discussion about his father who had passed away when James was young. I was trying very hard to focus on this topic and not the fact that his bedroom was the messiest room I’d ever seen (which is saying a lot since I grew up with 7 boys.) During this conversation I found out James was a very spiritual guy. We discussed spirituality and reincarnation, two things we both believed in. Then the conversation took an interesting turn. We discovered that I was born just a few weeks after his father had died. Since we had such a great connection, and due to the coincidental timing, he thought I might just be his father reincarnated. He looked at me strangely when he shared this new-found possibility and belief. Almost as if he was looking deep into my eyes and trying to see if his father was indeed there behind them. This creeped me out on so many levels. The main reason being we had just slept together, and ewww…how disturbing to think you may have just had sex with your father.
Well over the next couple of weeks, I noticed James became more distant. This may have been because he was contemplating whether or not he wanted to date his dad, or maybe he just wasn’t that into me, who knows. Apparently though he felt close enough to me to ask if I’d baby-sit his fish while he went out of town for a few days. As I was carrying his fish tank into my house, I wondered…why? I mean, really.….why? My roommate voiced this question out loud when she asked why in the hell a fish tank was in our apartment, and I couldn’t think of a good response. I’m feeding them to help out a guy I’m not entirely sure I’m dating and who may very well believe we’re related didn’t quite sound like a good answer. On the day I knew he’d be coming home, to avoid having to see James, I left his fish tank in front of his apartment door with a note that said something along the lines of : ‘James, the fish were fed this morning. Had a great time with you but no need to call me anymore. Hope your trip went well. P.S. Clean your room or no T.V. for a week. Love, Dad.
The next day James called and told me that while he remembered absolutely NOTHING from the previous night, he figured I must be a pretty cool girl for being able to deal with his drunken self. Wow. How flattering. We made a date to go out. We met for drinks and hit it off. We continued to go out fairly regularly after that.
One night, we were sitting in his bedroom having a long discussion about his father who had passed away when James was young. I was trying very hard to focus on this topic and not the fact that his bedroom was the messiest room I’d ever seen (which is saying a lot since I grew up with 7 boys.) During this conversation I found out James was a very spiritual guy. We discussed spirituality and reincarnation, two things we both believed in. Then the conversation took an interesting turn. We discovered that I was born just a few weeks after his father had died. Since we had such a great connection, and due to the coincidental timing, he thought I might just be his father reincarnated. He looked at me strangely when he shared this new-found possibility and belief. Almost as if he was looking deep into my eyes and trying to see if his father was indeed there behind them. This creeped me out on so many levels. The main reason being we had just slept together, and ewww…how disturbing to think you may have just had sex with your father.
Well over the next couple of weeks, I noticed James became more distant. This may have been because he was contemplating whether or not he wanted to date his dad, or maybe he just wasn’t that into me, who knows. Apparently though he felt close enough to me to ask if I’d baby-sit his fish while he went out of town for a few days. As I was carrying his fish tank into my house, I wondered…why? I mean, really.….why? My roommate voiced this question out loud when she asked why in the hell a fish tank was in our apartment, and I couldn’t think of a good response. I’m feeding them to help out a guy I’m not entirely sure I’m dating and who may very well believe we’re related didn’t quite sound like a good answer. On the day I knew he’d be coming home, to avoid having to see James, I left his fish tank in front of his apartment door with a note that said something along the lines of : ‘James, the fish were fed this morning. Had a great time with you but no need to call me anymore. Hope your trip went well. P.S. Clean your room or no T.V. for a week. Love, Dad.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
One Eyed Will
The day I met Will, I was on the set of a movie. He worked on movie sets as a production assistant. I was 19 at the time, still living at home in Orange County, and sometimes my friends and I would go up to L.A. to work on movie sets as extras. Some of the extras who did this for a living would call themselves background artists. The production staff would call them feeding props. We were basically treated like scenery, but it was fun for us to be a part of the filming regardless.
When I first saw Will, I thought he was pretty cute. It was during a lunch break that he struck up a conversation with me. We chatted for a little while and I noticed that he had two different colored eyes. One appeared to be green and the other blue. I commented on them and he told me they were two different colors because they are actually two different eyes. Only one was the eye he was actually born with. Ummmmm..??? He went on to explain that when he was a kid, his brother had chased him around the house one day with an ice pick while they were playing. Will’s brother ran into him and the ice pick accidentally got shoved into Will’s eye. When taken to the emergency room he found out he’d lose that eye. There was a girl in the hospital that had just died and happened to be an eye donor. Will became the new owner of that eye, which moved around as if nothing was wrong, yet he would never be able to see out of it. It would just be for cosmetic purposes.
Will asked me to go out with him and some friends to a local pub that night and I agreed. It still amazes me that I was able to drink in so many bars back then without getting kicked out for being underage. We had a lot of fun that night drinking cheap pitchers of beer, talking, laughing and getting to know each other better. We started seeing each other fairly often after that. I was always the one making the effort to drive to him since I still lived with my mother and he only lived with roommates. The parking was always horrendous being that he lived in a college town. Being a gentleman wasn’t one of Will’s greatest attributes, which I first noticed on the long walks to and from my car that he never offered to accompany me on. He did have other qualities I admired though. Will was very driven and passionate about film. He was only a production assistant, but aspired to be a director of his own films. He even had a masters degree from film school. Sex with Will was pretty amazing which was probably his most redeeming quality.
Over the next couple of months, I wanted things to progress to a deeper level with Will. That didn’t really happen. In fact, the more he would be aloof and hard to get, the more I tried to show him that I was the perfect girl for him that he shouldn’t let get away. I would just take whatever time he would give to me, and made all of the effort with not much in return. On one occasion, I remember I was wearing my adorable, very high black platform shoes. While we were walking my platform shoe suddenly went one direction while my foot went the other and it caused me to trip and fall on my face. Not embarrassing at all in front of the guy you’d most like to impress. He asked if I was o.k. I said I was fine, trying to laugh it off, and continued walking. Then about a minute later, the same exact thing happened with the shoe and down I went….again. This time it was a little more painful and my foot was throbbing. I stood up, embarrassed, said I was fine and we walked into his apartment. I sat down to examine my foot which was getting progressively more painful by the second. I took off my shoes and compared my feet. The injured foot definitely looked swollen to me. I asked him if he thought the hurt foot looked bigger than the other one. He took a quick look at them and said he thought they looked the same. I continued to stare at the huge swollen foot, comparing it to the obviously smaller uninjured foot and asked if he was sure that it didn’t look any bigger. He said no. I contemplated telling him that maybe he couldn’t see the injury very well since he only had one working eye, but decided that would be in poor taste. I asked him to take me to the emergency room where I got examined and x-rayed, with the end result being that I had broken my foot.
They put me in a cast and we drove back to Will’s apartment. When we got inside he asked if I wanted to smoke some pot. This isn’t something I normally did, but between the pain in my foot and wishing I was anywhere other than with Will in this vulnerable state, I said sure, why not. We smoked quite a bit and I began to feel a little better about the situation at hand. Then he suggested going to see a movie. I agreed and we drove over to the theater. After we parked I started to grab my crutches from the backseat and he stopped me. You may find the next sentence unbelievable, but I promise it actually happened. “Why don’t you just leave the crutches in the car.” He said. “You can hop.“ It’s amazing how much further away everything seems when you have to hop on one foot to get there. When we were finally in the home stretch and walking/hopping down the hallway to our theater, he had the nerve to turn to me and say, “Hurry up, we’re going to miss the movie. It’s already started.” I just stared at him in disbelief for a moment before telling him through gritted teeth to go on ahead, I’d catch up to him in a minute.
After the movie was over, we went back to his place and ended up getting into a huge fight. I can’t remember exactly what it was about, I just remember at one point him saying, “You know, you are NOT my girlfriend!” This fact I was becoming more and more aware of, but the way he spit those words at me stung regardless. I would have loved to storm out, jump in my car and drive home right then. Unfortunately, since my driving foot was crippled, that couldn’t happen. I hadn’t exactly figured out how I was going to get home yet, and being that it was too late at night to call anyone at this point, I was stuck here for the night so we just went to bed. We slept as far away from each other as was possible on his crappy twin bed, which for me wasn’t far enough. In the early morning my best friend called. She asked if I needed to be picked up and I told her YES PLEASE! Within an hour I was in the car heading home with her. I didn’t talk to Will for quite some time after that, and I wish I could say we never spoke again. I have a tendency when time passes to forget the bad qualities in men, and remember mostly the good times.
After a month or so I called Will. We caught up on the latest in each others lives. I told him my cast had finally come off, and we decided to meet. We started dating again and during this round of our relationship we actually became “boyfriend and girlfriend.” Something else happened as well during this time period. I discovered that Will was a cocaine addict. How I had no clue about this the entire time I’d known him is beyond me. I suppose it was because I’d never known a cocaine addict, or anyone who’d even tried cocaine for that matter, so I had no idea what the symptoms were. Also because he had never done it in front of me. I only found out through a conversation with his roommates. Things made a lot more sense to me after I found this out. This was a common drug in his work place, so he didn’t see it as big deal. I did however see it as a big deal and he knew how much I wanted him to stop. One night to prove a point, I asked him to let me try it so I could see why it was so important to him. He thought I was kidding since I swore I’d never try a drug like that, but when he realized I wasn’t he let me. I proceeded to do way more than I should have not realizing how much cocaine people normally did and ended the night with Will laying next to me, telling me to just breathe and calm down, that my heart was beating WAY too fast. Luckily I was fine, but that night didn’t change his drug habits one bit. He remained a cocaine addict while I continued to ignore how much it bothered me. Then Will got the job which would change everything.
It was working on a film in Australia. He would be gone for 3 months. While he was gone he called often, and we made plans for me to come and visit. I’d always wanted to go to Australia and he said if I just bought the plane ticket everything else would be taken care of once I got there. So the ticket was bought, date to visit set, but something started to happen. Being away from Will I started to see things clearly for the first time. I started to notice what a completely rude and selfish prick he really was. He was having his paychecks sent to me because of a problem with his bank, and since I had his money he was also telling me to mail certain bills for him, as well as take care of a few other things. He was treating me like an unpaid assistant. Instead of being appreciative of all that I was doing for him, he one day yelled at me for not sending something out on time. I lost it. My patience had run out. I don’t think he’d ever seen this side of me. I’m not sure I had either. I told him where he could put his checks, I expressed how unappreciated I felt, and I said that I didn’t care if I lost all of the money I’d spent on my Australia plane ticket, but I wasn’t coming to visit him. It was over. I did end up losing the money on that ticket but gained back so much of my self respect that I didn’t care.
I saw Will once more after that. This time it was accidental. He came into the bar where I was cocktail waitressing at the time. He looked terrible and I wondered what I’d ever seen in him. He tried to talk to me and I blew him off. He cornered me at one point and wanted to know why I wouldn’t talk to him. He told me he had stopped doing cocaine and that he and his family called that time in his life the black period. He told me that he didn’t really remember most of what happened during that time, including apparently how he’d treated me. I told him that I owed him nothing, and that while he may not remember anything during “the black period”, I unfortunately remembered it all perfectly. I then turned and walked away from One Eyed Will for the last and final time.
When I first saw Will, I thought he was pretty cute. It was during a lunch break that he struck up a conversation with me. We chatted for a little while and I noticed that he had two different colored eyes. One appeared to be green and the other blue. I commented on them and he told me they were two different colors because they are actually two different eyes. Only one was the eye he was actually born with. Ummmmm..??? He went on to explain that when he was a kid, his brother had chased him around the house one day with an ice pick while they were playing. Will’s brother ran into him and the ice pick accidentally got shoved into Will’s eye. When taken to the emergency room he found out he’d lose that eye. There was a girl in the hospital that had just died and happened to be an eye donor. Will became the new owner of that eye, which moved around as if nothing was wrong, yet he would never be able to see out of it. It would just be for cosmetic purposes.
Will asked me to go out with him and some friends to a local pub that night and I agreed. It still amazes me that I was able to drink in so many bars back then without getting kicked out for being underage. We had a lot of fun that night drinking cheap pitchers of beer, talking, laughing and getting to know each other better. We started seeing each other fairly often after that. I was always the one making the effort to drive to him since I still lived with my mother and he only lived with roommates. The parking was always horrendous being that he lived in a college town. Being a gentleman wasn’t one of Will’s greatest attributes, which I first noticed on the long walks to and from my car that he never offered to accompany me on. He did have other qualities I admired though. Will was very driven and passionate about film. He was only a production assistant, but aspired to be a director of his own films. He even had a masters degree from film school. Sex with Will was pretty amazing which was probably his most redeeming quality.
Over the next couple of months, I wanted things to progress to a deeper level with Will. That didn’t really happen. In fact, the more he would be aloof and hard to get, the more I tried to show him that I was the perfect girl for him that he shouldn’t let get away. I would just take whatever time he would give to me, and made all of the effort with not much in return. On one occasion, I remember I was wearing my adorable, very high black platform shoes. While we were walking my platform shoe suddenly went one direction while my foot went the other and it caused me to trip and fall on my face. Not embarrassing at all in front of the guy you’d most like to impress. He asked if I was o.k. I said I was fine, trying to laugh it off, and continued walking. Then about a minute later, the same exact thing happened with the shoe and down I went….again. This time it was a little more painful and my foot was throbbing. I stood up, embarrassed, said I was fine and we walked into his apartment. I sat down to examine my foot which was getting progressively more painful by the second. I took off my shoes and compared my feet. The injured foot definitely looked swollen to me. I asked him if he thought the hurt foot looked bigger than the other one. He took a quick look at them and said he thought they looked the same. I continued to stare at the huge swollen foot, comparing it to the obviously smaller uninjured foot and asked if he was sure that it didn’t look any bigger. He said no. I contemplated telling him that maybe he couldn’t see the injury very well since he only had one working eye, but decided that would be in poor taste. I asked him to take me to the emergency room where I got examined and x-rayed, with the end result being that I had broken my foot.
They put me in a cast and we drove back to Will’s apartment. When we got inside he asked if I wanted to smoke some pot. This isn’t something I normally did, but between the pain in my foot and wishing I was anywhere other than with Will in this vulnerable state, I said sure, why not. We smoked quite a bit and I began to feel a little better about the situation at hand. Then he suggested going to see a movie. I agreed and we drove over to the theater. After we parked I started to grab my crutches from the backseat and he stopped me. You may find the next sentence unbelievable, but I promise it actually happened. “Why don’t you just leave the crutches in the car.” He said. “You can hop.“ It’s amazing how much further away everything seems when you have to hop on one foot to get there. When we were finally in the home stretch and walking/hopping down the hallway to our theater, he had the nerve to turn to me and say, “Hurry up, we’re going to miss the movie. It’s already started.” I just stared at him in disbelief for a moment before telling him through gritted teeth to go on ahead, I’d catch up to him in a minute.
After the movie was over, we went back to his place and ended up getting into a huge fight. I can’t remember exactly what it was about, I just remember at one point him saying, “You know, you are NOT my girlfriend!” This fact I was becoming more and more aware of, but the way he spit those words at me stung regardless. I would have loved to storm out, jump in my car and drive home right then. Unfortunately, since my driving foot was crippled, that couldn’t happen. I hadn’t exactly figured out how I was going to get home yet, and being that it was too late at night to call anyone at this point, I was stuck here for the night so we just went to bed. We slept as far away from each other as was possible on his crappy twin bed, which for me wasn’t far enough. In the early morning my best friend called. She asked if I needed to be picked up and I told her YES PLEASE! Within an hour I was in the car heading home with her. I didn’t talk to Will for quite some time after that, and I wish I could say we never spoke again. I have a tendency when time passes to forget the bad qualities in men, and remember mostly the good times.
After a month or so I called Will. We caught up on the latest in each others lives. I told him my cast had finally come off, and we decided to meet. We started dating again and during this round of our relationship we actually became “boyfriend and girlfriend.” Something else happened as well during this time period. I discovered that Will was a cocaine addict. How I had no clue about this the entire time I’d known him is beyond me. I suppose it was because I’d never known a cocaine addict, or anyone who’d even tried cocaine for that matter, so I had no idea what the symptoms were. Also because he had never done it in front of me. I only found out through a conversation with his roommates. Things made a lot more sense to me after I found this out. This was a common drug in his work place, so he didn’t see it as big deal. I did however see it as a big deal and he knew how much I wanted him to stop. One night to prove a point, I asked him to let me try it so I could see why it was so important to him. He thought I was kidding since I swore I’d never try a drug like that, but when he realized I wasn’t he let me. I proceeded to do way more than I should have not realizing how much cocaine people normally did and ended the night with Will laying next to me, telling me to just breathe and calm down, that my heart was beating WAY too fast. Luckily I was fine, but that night didn’t change his drug habits one bit. He remained a cocaine addict while I continued to ignore how much it bothered me. Then Will got the job which would change everything.
It was working on a film in Australia. He would be gone for 3 months. While he was gone he called often, and we made plans for me to come and visit. I’d always wanted to go to Australia and he said if I just bought the plane ticket everything else would be taken care of once I got there. So the ticket was bought, date to visit set, but something started to happen. Being away from Will I started to see things clearly for the first time. I started to notice what a completely rude and selfish prick he really was. He was having his paychecks sent to me because of a problem with his bank, and since I had his money he was also telling me to mail certain bills for him, as well as take care of a few other things. He was treating me like an unpaid assistant. Instead of being appreciative of all that I was doing for him, he one day yelled at me for not sending something out on time. I lost it. My patience had run out. I don’t think he’d ever seen this side of me. I’m not sure I had either. I told him where he could put his checks, I expressed how unappreciated I felt, and I said that I didn’t care if I lost all of the money I’d spent on my Australia plane ticket, but I wasn’t coming to visit him. It was over. I did end up losing the money on that ticket but gained back so much of my self respect that I didn’t care.
I saw Will once more after that. This time it was accidental. He came into the bar where I was cocktail waitressing at the time. He looked terrible and I wondered what I’d ever seen in him. He tried to talk to me and I blew him off. He cornered me at one point and wanted to know why I wouldn’t talk to him. He told me he had stopped doing cocaine and that he and his family called that time in his life the black period. He told me that he didn’t really remember most of what happened during that time, including apparently how he’d treated me. I told him that I owed him nothing, and that while he may not remember anything during “the black period”, I unfortunately remembered it all perfectly. I then turned and walked away from One Eyed Will for the last and final time.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
My First Love
This was a big one for me. My first real love. I was 16 when I met Darren. My best friend at the time invited me to her work party which was being hosted at a local bar. She and I for some reason could usually get into most bars even though we were under 21. Halfway through the evening I stepped outside for some fresh air, and Darren was sitting outside on the steps. He started up a conversation, made a couple of jokes. I thought he was very cute and funny. He had amazing big blue eyes, the kind that make you melt. He asked me how old I was, and because I felt strange admitting I was under 21 and in a bar, I stretched the truth a bit. I told him I was 19. He was 23 at the time. That night, I wasn’t sure if I’d ever see him again, so I didn’t see much harm in the lie.
I wasn’t too surprised when he called, and of course agreed to go out with him. I was, however, surprised when we continued going out and started to fall in love. To make matters worse, my birthday was fast approaching and I didn’t quite know how to tell him that instead of turning 20, I would actually be turning 17. I couldn’t seem to find the right time to bring it up so I just kept procrastinating. I thought there was no way he’d want to be with me if he knew the truth.
During this time of hiding my age came some close calls and some very awkward incidents. There was the time he took me to an 18 and over club since I was “19” and I could definitely get in there. I didn’t know how to get out of it so I got dressed and ready, we drove all the way there, and when we got to door of the club the bouncer carded us. I frantically searched my purse for my ID. I acted shocked when I just couldn’t seem to find it. I said I must have either left it at home or lost it, and told Darren how sorry I was. He seemed disappointed, but not suspicious. Phew, safe for now.
Then there was the time we were at the grocery store, and the checker happened to be a classmate at my high school. He kept bringing up things that had to do with people at school or other things that would give me away, while I desperately tried to change the subject and shot him looks of warning when Darren wasn’t looking. After these and other incidents Darren apparently got suspicious. One day while I ran inside to grab my coat, he pulled out my wallet and checked my license. He didn’t tell me yet that he knew the truth, and instead waited a while in hopes I’d come clean. Well I didn’t, and I’ll never forget the moment he told me he knew.
We were on the phone and he started saying things like, “I wasn’t going to bring this up,“ and “I was hoping you’d say it first,” and things of that nature. I thought, oh my God, he’s about to tell me he loves me for the first time. Wrong. “I know how old you are Parker, and I don’t care I just wish you would have told me” he said. I just remember being shocked that he still wanted to be with me after that.
From then on we had 2 amazing years together. We traveled, I practically lived at his place, he knew my family. There were a few bumps in the road of course. Darren was older and wanted me to be more settled down. I was 17 and a free spirit. We fought a bit here and there. Then came the moment no girl ever wants to experience. The moment you realize you’re not even 18 and you’re pregnant. The moment where I thought, oh my God, I’m doomed to repeat my mother’s mistakes and my life is now over. I wasn’t sure if Darren would run when he heard the news, but he didn’t. He was really there for me through all of it. He said he would support me no matter what I chose. After a major internal battle, I chose not to have the baby. My 9 years of Catholic school made me fear the decision to have an abortion, and I wrestled with the guilt. I wondered for years if I’d made the right choice. It connected Darren and I in a deeper way after going through that. I think part of us would always be a little sad about the child that we could have had together.
After graduating from high school, I knew I wanted to move to L.A and get out of suburbia. I had dreams and aspirations. I had yet to explore life. Darren and I as a couple didn’t really fit into that plan. I needed to be free. I broke up with him, and told him that I needed this time, yet I still loved him so much. It was very sad and emotional for us both. After about a month or so, I got a temp job in an office, just for one day. Because this is the way my luck works, it coincidentally happened to be where Darren was employed. He worked out on construction sites and not in the office, but he called to check in there a few times daily. Hearing his voice made me miss him, and after that day I started to call him again. I would call just to chat or see how he was doing. One of the times that I called him, the way he answered the phone sounded like he was expecting someone. Someone other than me. I asked him if he had been expecting a call, and he said no. He called me back later and said he’d lied. He was expecting someone when I’d called. He was seeing someone, and they were engaged. Cue the jaw dropping. What?!? He was ENGAGED?! Already?!? I was too stunned to say anything other than ,”um, I have to go.” I hung up the phone and started bawling. I ended up going to his house the next day with the excuse that he had a few things of mine, and proceeded to tell him how much I missed him and how heartbroken I was that he was engaged to someone other than me. I left and the following day he called me, and said he needed me to meet him, we had to talk.
I met him and he proceeded to tell me that he’d been talking to his best friend about the situation. That he wasn’t sure what to do because he still loved me. Apparently his friend had said, “dude, I think you should marry Parker. You always said she was your angel.” While he was telling me all of this I realized that as much as I loved him, I still didn’t know what I wanted, and I still wanted to move to L.A and experience life on my own. I realized I wasn’t ready for this and he was. I then made a decision to let him go. I told him this, and said that it sounded like his fiancé really loved and needed him and it wasn’t time for me to settle down yet. I told him I wanted him to be happy because I loved him. He nodded, and with a look of slight sadness, yet understanding, he kissed me. One last time. I told him it was probably best he didn’t share that bit of information with his fiancé. He agreed, then he turned and walked out of my life, and I was left to wonder what was in store for me next.
I wasn’t too surprised when he called, and of course agreed to go out with him. I was, however, surprised when we continued going out and started to fall in love. To make matters worse, my birthday was fast approaching and I didn’t quite know how to tell him that instead of turning 20, I would actually be turning 17. I couldn’t seem to find the right time to bring it up so I just kept procrastinating. I thought there was no way he’d want to be with me if he knew the truth.
During this time of hiding my age came some close calls and some very awkward incidents. There was the time he took me to an 18 and over club since I was “19” and I could definitely get in there. I didn’t know how to get out of it so I got dressed and ready, we drove all the way there, and when we got to door of the club the bouncer carded us. I frantically searched my purse for my ID. I acted shocked when I just couldn’t seem to find it. I said I must have either left it at home or lost it, and told Darren how sorry I was. He seemed disappointed, but not suspicious. Phew, safe for now.
Then there was the time we were at the grocery store, and the checker happened to be a classmate at my high school. He kept bringing up things that had to do with people at school or other things that would give me away, while I desperately tried to change the subject and shot him looks of warning when Darren wasn’t looking. After these and other incidents Darren apparently got suspicious. One day while I ran inside to grab my coat, he pulled out my wallet and checked my license. He didn’t tell me yet that he knew the truth, and instead waited a while in hopes I’d come clean. Well I didn’t, and I’ll never forget the moment he told me he knew.
We were on the phone and he started saying things like, “I wasn’t going to bring this up,“ and “I was hoping you’d say it first,” and things of that nature. I thought, oh my God, he’s about to tell me he loves me for the first time. Wrong. “I know how old you are Parker, and I don’t care I just wish you would have told me” he said. I just remember being shocked that he still wanted to be with me after that.
From then on we had 2 amazing years together. We traveled, I practically lived at his place, he knew my family. There were a few bumps in the road of course. Darren was older and wanted me to be more settled down. I was 17 and a free spirit. We fought a bit here and there. Then came the moment no girl ever wants to experience. The moment you realize you’re not even 18 and you’re pregnant. The moment where I thought, oh my God, I’m doomed to repeat my mother’s mistakes and my life is now over. I wasn’t sure if Darren would run when he heard the news, but he didn’t. He was really there for me through all of it. He said he would support me no matter what I chose. After a major internal battle, I chose not to have the baby. My 9 years of Catholic school made me fear the decision to have an abortion, and I wrestled with the guilt. I wondered for years if I’d made the right choice. It connected Darren and I in a deeper way after going through that. I think part of us would always be a little sad about the child that we could have had together.
After graduating from high school, I knew I wanted to move to L.A and get out of suburbia. I had dreams and aspirations. I had yet to explore life. Darren and I as a couple didn’t really fit into that plan. I needed to be free. I broke up with him, and told him that I needed this time, yet I still loved him so much. It was very sad and emotional for us both. After about a month or so, I got a temp job in an office, just for one day. Because this is the way my luck works, it coincidentally happened to be where Darren was employed. He worked out on construction sites and not in the office, but he called to check in there a few times daily. Hearing his voice made me miss him, and after that day I started to call him again. I would call just to chat or see how he was doing. One of the times that I called him, the way he answered the phone sounded like he was expecting someone. Someone other than me. I asked him if he had been expecting a call, and he said no. He called me back later and said he’d lied. He was expecting someone when I’d called. He was seeing someone, and they were engaged. Cue the jaw dropping. What?!? He was ENGAGED?! Already?!? I was too stunned to say anything other than ,”um, I have to go.” I hung up the phone and started bawling. I ended up going to his house the next day with the excuse that he had a few things of mine, and proceeded to tell him how much I missed him and how heartbroken I was that he was engaged to someone other than me. I left and the following day he called me, and said he needed me to meet him, we had to talk.
I met him and he proceeded to tell me that he’d been talking to his best friend about the situation. That he wasn’t sure what to do because he still loved me. Apparently his friend had said, “dude, I think you should marry Parker. You always said she was your angel.” While he was telling me all of this I realized that as much as I loved him, I still didn’t know what I wanted, and I still wanted to move to L.A and experience life on my own. I realized I wasn’t ready for this and he was. I then made a decision to let him go. I told him this, and said that it sounded like his fiancé really loved and needed him and it wasn’t time for me to settle down yet. I told him I wanted him to be happy because I loved him. He nodded, and with a look of slight sadness, yet understanding, he kissed me. One last time. I told him it was probably best he didn’t share that bit of information with his fiancé. He agreed, then he turned and walked out of my life, and I was left to wonder what was in store for me next.
Monday, February 8, 2010
The One That Got Away
I’m not sure I will ever know what K.C.’s real name was. He was nicknamed K.C. in high school after K.C. and the sunshine band, because he was the white guy that hung around all the black guys. K.C. was the manager of the movie theater I worked at, and the man I previously mentioned who saved me from J.R. at the prom. K.C. was also about 34 years old, and I had just turned 16 (I know, I know. I promise I get around to dating younger men eventually if you hang in there.)
So K.C. and I ended up “dating” for a little while. He was that cool, unavailable guy that you really want to fall for you but doesn’t and kind of strings you along. He had a reputation for liking younger girls. He didn’t even try to hide this fact. We were in the car together on one occasion and Oingo Boingo’s song “I love little girls” came on the radio. He said it was his theme song. Instead of seeing red flags waving or hearing WARNING,WARNING blaring in my head, I thought it was funny and giggled like the naïve little girl that I was.
I was always trying to impress him with how mature or how unique I was, in hopes to win him over completely and possibly have a real committed relationship. A relationship similar to the one that I had made up in my head and kept daydreaming about. I even lent him money once. $300 I will never see again. I figured it would just be a matter of time before he came around and saw that I was the one for him and we would live happily ever after. Unfortunately my visions of our future together came to a screeching halt on one seemingly normal day, when I showed up to work and a detective was waiting there to speak to me. He asked if he could have a few minutes of my time to talk to me about an urgent matter. I sat down with him at a nearby table, my stomach doing back flips all the while. He proceeded to try to scare and manipulate me into telling him that I was intimate with K.C. I wouldn’t. I lied and said we were just friends. He told me it didn’t matter what I said, that they were planning on arresting him that night regardless. He said they’d been investigating him for a long time, mainly for his relations with young girls and also because he apparently had a fetish for showing his penis in public. I pick all the winners. The detective said if I told K.C. about this visit I would get in big trouble, and tried some more to get me to admit that I, as a minor, had been with K.C. sexually. At this point, part of me wanted to protect K.C. from getting in trouble, and part of me just really didn’t like this detective. When he finally realized I wasn’t going to be of any help to his case against K.C., he left. I immediately called K.C. and told him to come meet me ASAP.
I filled him in on all that had been said during my meeting with the detective. He looked very sad, and was extremely thankful to me for telling him. I never saw him again after that. I did get a card from him in the mail once. The return address had the name Robert on it. New name, new life. He said in his card that he owed me so much and thanked me again. Looking back I should have probably turned him in.
So K.C. and I ended up “dating” for a little while. He was that cool, unavailable guy that you really want to fall for you but doesn’t and kind of strings you along. He had a reputation for liking younger girls. He didn’t even try to hide this fact. We were in the car together on one occasion and Oingo Boingo’s song “I love little girls” came on the radio. He said it was his theme song. Instead of seeing red flags waving or hearing WARNING,WARNING blaring in my head, I thought it was funny and giggled like the naïve little girl that I was.
I was always trying to impress him with how mature or how unique I was, in hopes to win him over completely and possibly have a real committed relationship. A relationship similar to the one that I had made up in my head and kept daydreaming about. I even lent him money once. $300 I will never see again. I figured it would just be a matter of time before he came around and saw that I was the one for him and we would live happily ever after. Unfortunately my visions of our future together came to a screeching halt on one seemingly normal day, when I showed up to work and a detective was waiting there to speak to me. He asked if he could have a few minutes of my time to talk to me about an urgent matter. I sat down with him at a nearby table, my stomach doing back flips all the while. He proceeded to try to scare and manipulate me into telling him that I was intimate with K.C. I wouldn’t. I lied and said we were just friends. He told me it didn’t matter what I said, that they were planning on arresting him that night regardless. He said they’d been investigating him for a long time, mainly for his relations with young girls and also because he apparently had a fetish for showing his penis in public. I pick all the winners. The detective said if I told K.C. about this visit I would get in big trouble, and tried some more to get me to admit that I, as a minor, had been with K.C. sexually. At this point, part of me wanted to protect K.C. from getting in trouble, and part of me just really didn’t like this detective. When he finally realized I wasn’t going to be of any help to his case against K.C., he left. I immediately called K.C. and told him to come meet me ASAP.
I filled him in on all that had been said during my meeting with the detective. He looked very sad, and was extremely thankful to me for telling him. I never saw him again after that. I did get a card from him in the mail once. The return address had the name Robert on it. New name, new life. He said in his card that he owed me so much and thanked me again. Looking back I should have probably turned him in.
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